The space that we live, work, love, and create in are reflective of the words we speak. If you’re not sure whether or not your words are creatively building the life you desire, all you need to do is look around. What does your life reflect?  How does it look?

Is your life reflecting the dreams, desires and loves that you hope for? Or have the reflections left you feeling frustrated, depressed, angry, unloveable, and somehow desperate?

Don’t worry, you’re not alone! I’ve been there; as everyone has at one or more times in her/his life. For some reason just the realization that I wasn’t alone made me feel a little better. However, still not enough to quiet the voices of disappointment or feelings of despair I harbored inside.

Questions like, “How did this happen? Why am I here? What went wrong? How can I fix this?” plagued my days that turned into many tearful nights. No matter what I did things seemed to remain HARD!

I’ll never forget the day I asked my best friend, “When is it going to stop being so hard?” To which she responded, “When you’re ready for it to stop being hard.”

That was not the answer I was looking for, nor expecting. To my surprise it was the answer I had been unconsciously seeking in order for my expectations to finally be unlocked from the prison of pain I found myself in.

If life has taken you to this place, I’ve got great news for you! The light isn’t at the end of the tunnel. The light is IN YOU!

It’s hidden behind the thoughts we think that program the words we speak. Your words are the light or darkness that are creating your easy or hard reality.  If you want to to change your life, speak differently about (and to) your life.

If you desire to stop doing HARD, and would like to love the reflections in your life, these 3 words can change everything. Just like they did for me.

1. Thanks. It’s not simply a word, but a mindset of thanksgiving that’s reflected in the words that we speak. If your words are not that of love, appreciation and celebration, then it’s time to take a look at what’s in your heart. A happy heart is a grateful heart. I will never forget the day I cried out to God and said, “Now what shall I do?” He lovingly responded, “Just give thanks.” I had gotten so focused on what was wrong, that I had lost sight of what was right.  I had something to be thankful for, and that was easy.  It was a choice.  And the choice of “thanks” was much easier than the hard I had been doing.  When you cannot necessarily undo the wrong, do the right…thankfully!

If there is one thing that you can be thankful for, focus on that one thing and give thanks like your life depended on it. The brilliance of our lives is dependent on the thanks that we give.

2. Embrace. Embrace what IS versus resisting it or what IS NOT. Embracing isn’t accepting, but it’s acknowledging. Once we acknowledge it, we no longer run or hide from it. We face it full on. Recognition is essential for thanksgiving. Without fully embracing, it’s impossible to release and let go.

3. Love. When was the last time you said the word love? For example, “I love it.” or “I love him/her.” Love is the only thing that never fails. People and possessions may fail us, but love NEVER does. If we allow love to come out of us, love will eventually return to us.

Life and death are in the words that we speak. Our words are the most powerful creative (or destructive) force we have.  Our words come from what’s in our hearts. Therefore look to your heart for the source of not only your words, but the reflections that your words are creating in your life.

We live in those reflections.

Thank, embrace and love the heart that holds your words. Then share them…just as a builder carefully places glass/mirror tiles on supporting structures, while building a place for you to live, breath, work and create.

Your words are not only the glass/mirrors, but the structure that your life is built upon.